"I have worked in college athletics for over 30 years and have been an administrator at USC Upstate throughout Coach Sharif Saber's tenure. I know what happened, I know how our department operates, and I know the coach. Coach Saber resigned for family reasons. That is the truth. I also find it remarkable that people believe a university would knowingly allow someone described in these posts to remain employed, much less continue to expand his responsibilities. During his time here, Coach Saber served on DEI initiatives, university hiring committees, and Big South Conference committees focused on student-athlete welfare. Those are not positions given to someone whose conduct raises legitimate concerns. If anything, Coach Saber frustrated people internally because he was relentless in asking for more for his student-athletes. He pushed for additional resources, more academic opportunities, stronger support systems, and a better overall experience. Sometimes that made conversations uncomfortable, but his focus was always on improving the program for his players. His players represented the department on leadership committees, worked with the Chancellor's office, participated in campus initiatives, and had a voice in decisions that affected student life. His players were also leadership examples across the Big South which is well documented. Those opportunities did not happen by accident. They happened because he believed his players should leave college better prepared for life than when they arrived. Coaches do not work in isolation. Athletic trainers are at training sessions. Strength and conditioning staff are with the teams. Administrators are around the program. Meetings are documented. We are all mandatory reporters. If anyone witnesses conduct that threatens the welfare of a student-athlete, there is both a legal and institutional obligation to report it. People should ask themselves a simple question. How could someone supposedly engage in this behavior over four years while working every day around administrators, athletic trainers, sports medicine staff, strength coaches, compliance personnel, and other university employees without a documented pattern emerging? That simply does not reflect the reality of how a Division I athletic department functions. Everyone is entitled to their opinion of a coach. Not every player enjoys every coaching style, and disagreements happen on every team in the country. But there is a significant difference between saying a coach was demanding and making serious accusations that are inconsistent with what those of us inside the department witnessed and the vast, vast majority of his players experienced. The Coach Saber I worked with advocated for his players, challenged our department to improve, and continued supporting former players long after they left campus. All while operating within all NCAA rules. That is the individual I know. "

"He groomed every single one of his players. "

"Sharif was a bully and of course you guys are going to him because your kid can’t get what she wants. He is a disgusting human being and treated people differently based on their upbringing. He was the most unfair coach. So he did in fact not take care of your kid. Sharif is a terrible person. The team environment that was “toxic” was created and appreciated by sharif. Things were absolutely out of control and it is very clear that the people defending him are doing him favors and don’t know the half of it/looking the other way so their kid gets what they want. He knows ball, but at what price are you willing to pay? "

"When all this mess started last year I told my daughter to stay out of it. All the girls were told they could talk if they wanted to, but my wife and I told her to stay out of the mess because too many on her team were toxic. When Sharif resigned to take care of his family, we actually met with Dr. Harris and Matt Martin we were told our daughter’s scholarship would be honored. The new guy comes in and immediately cuts a chunk of the team, which we thought was fine because even though most of the issues had graduated (I’ve heard one is coaching now, so good luck to those people), some still remained. We thought administration was cleaning out the group that cost us the best coach in the country. Then we went through spring where the new guy tells the girls how bad they are, how dumb they are, and how the seniors were no good and he would have gotten rid of them too. He cut my injured daughter late in the spring just to open a roster spot. It felt like he just wanted all of the old team out. After that, we entered the portal and the new guy was already trashing my kid to other coaches. We reached out to Sharif after he had been gone for seven months. I never would have expected what happened next. He didn’t bash anyone. He spoke highly of all his former players and of Upstate. Within a day we had a MLS physician’s office reaching out to get my daughter evaluated, along with over fifteen emails and texts from college coaches around the country. That man sacrificed for his players, and he is still looking out for and protecting them. He is a great man."

"I got cut, simple as that, and at the time I was so mad and took it personally like my whole soccer future just got shut down and it was hit fault. But what I didn’t expect was how kept following up to check on me. He sat me down, told me he knew I wouldn't, and still helped me figure out what to do next like I wasn’t just some throwaway player. He even told me not to rush into signing a lease because he knew I might transfer and didn’t want me stuck paying for something I couldn’t get out of, which honestly saved me from a bad situation. And I was in a really demanding major that could have lost credit hours if I stayed longer. He still made sure I had spring film because my fall wasn’t great and that helped me a lot moving forward. I’m not saying everyone had the same experience with him because Sharif would match your energy. The ones that asked for help got it and if you didn't you didn't. He was always there for us. I’m just saying what I lived through doesn’t match what’s being posted online and both versions can’t really be the full truth at the same time. His biggest mistake was giving too many "Jessicas" too many chances. "

"Why are there no negative choices? He was fired from Upstate for abusing his players. Over 4 years they were to afraid to come forward. He threatened their scholarships and their playing time. I got my daughter the hell out of there. Upstate administration covered it up. He is a bully, narcissistic, lying, manipulative rat bastard. "

"My experience playing under Coach Sharif Saber was one of the most damaging experiences of my life. I entered the program as a freshman excited to compete, grow, and be part of what should have been a supportive team environment, a home away from home. Instead, it became an environment marked by fear, favoritism, intimidation, and emotional exhaustion. By the middle of my sophomore year, approximately 75% of the freshman class I entered with had quit the program. That is not a statistic that should be ignored. This was not simply a matter of athletes being unable to handle the demands of college soccer. It reflected a culture that made many players feel unsafe, unsupported, and devalued. Coach Saber operated heavily through favoritism. If you were among the few players he chose to invest in, I can understand how your experience may have looked very different. But if you were not in that select group, you were often treated as though your effort, worth, and humanity held little value. Players were degraded, threatened with physical and verbal punishment, and routinely made to feel that fear was an acceptable coaching tool. Some people may argue that a coach’s primary job is to win games. But winning should never excuse the methods used to get there. Threats, intimidation, humiliation, and fear are not game-winning tactics, they are failures of leadership. The true measure of a coach is not just the scoreboard, but how they lead, develop, and influence the athletes placed under their care. It matters how a coach wins. In my college experience, the environment created under Coach Saber prioritized control over development, favoritism over fairness, and intimidation over mentorship. No athlete should have to fear the person responsible for guiding their growth. What made this experience even more troubling were the comments and attitudes that made it clear certain players were judged differently based on their background, upbringing, or identity. Those patterns were noticed, felt, and deeply damaging. A person in a position of authority over young women carries immense responsibility, and in my experience, Coach Saber was not fit for that responsibility. Soccer was something I loved deeply before college. My experience in this program did not strengthen that passion, it ruined it. No athlete should walk away from the sport they love feeling stripped of confidence, safety, or self-worth because of the culture created by a coach. If you are a prospective player, parent, or recruit researching this coach, I encourage you to look beyond records and wins. Ask former players difficult questions. Examine retention. Pay attention to culture. A winning record means very little if it comes at the expense of the wellbeing, dignity, and development of the athletes behind it."

"There’s good and bad in all coaches honestly. "

"I just graduated and played for Coach Sharif for four years. He pushed us to be our best but always put the team first. He checked in on our mental health, our families, and anything we needed, not just soccer. Over the summer he would text us to see how we were doing, celebrated our GPAs in the group chat, helped set up internships, and always had us set the standard for the school. He wanted us out front and in the public eye because he wanted everyone to see how amazing we are, like he sees us. He gave us mental health days to recharge and showed us how to balance being a student athlete because he knew it could be stressful and he wanted us to enjoy the experience. He let us pick home game themes to support causes we cared about like Adopt a Pup, cancer awareness, and suicide prevention, and he always made sure our voices were heard. He never gossiped or spoke negatively about anyone and always kept the focus on the team. He challenged us when we weren’t believing in ourselves or living up to our potential but always built us up at the same time. He protected players when mistakes happened and turned them into learning moments. He made it clear that the program and the team came first, and worked to make sure everyone’s efforts were recognized, even advocating for awards to honor the whole team. He would get choked up at meetings and we’d tease him for being emotional, but it just showed how much he cared. We’d leave game film fired up and excited, and honestly we loved playing for him. The lies spread by a small group cost us not only another championship but hurt the whole program, and the new coaches don’t want anything to do with those players. Sharif loved us, supported us, checked in on us constantly, and always had our backs. "

"I need to get this off my chest. I was part of the group that lied about Coach Sharif, and I can’t take back what we did, but I finally opened up to my family about the full story and I feel like I at least need to speak out. Sharif told us all the time how much he loved us. He challenged us when we weren’t believing in ourselves, when we weren’t living up to our potential because he saw how amazing we were. He looked for ways to help our families with scholarships, set up tutors for those struggling academically, and protected players who made mistakes so we could learn from them as life lessons. He also allowed mental health days where we could take off from training with no questions asked, we just had to do a physical walk into the office so he knew we were safe. He never pressured us or pried into our lives, and he always said, “only tell me what you are comfortable with.” Every year he reminded us of our core values and player rules because it was our program, and he cared about our growth on and off the field. He even baked for us and brought candy on Halloween, always taking into account allergies or medical conditions to make sure everyone could enjoy it safely. There is one captain who bullied younger players into lying, told us that if we defended Sharif we would be outcasts, and rallied players who were suspended for partying, lying, or yelling at coaches to claim they were mistreated. Some even spread nonsense about Sharif being “too white” to be Muslim, which is disgusting and completely false. About him leaving his last school mysteriously, here is an actual article from that school thanking him and showing how much they valued him: https://umotrojans.com/story.aspx?filename=womens-soccer-saber-resigns-accepts-head-coach-position-at-usc-upstate&file_date=12-9-2021&path=womenswrestling. Ninety percent of the team called him or went to his house within days of his leaving. He loved us, supported us, and was always there. Sharif never bullied anyone, never used personal information against us, and never attacked us beyond coaching. He built us up, cared about us as people, and was always honest. Sharif loved us, supported us, and showed it in ways that mattered. "

"My experience with Sharif was different than some of what I am seeing here. He was always open and honest with players and set a culture that was built on standards for excellence. We always worked hard, but there was also real sense of family that created a lot of good times through that hard work. We probably did not have conference-winning talent on the team, but we were able to do so. I don't think many other coaches could have gotten the results Sharif did or built the kind of team mentality that he did. I was never on a team that worked so well together. While we had some differences among players, there was a unified goal that he instilled into us. I would not have wanted to play for another coach. Sharif was always there for me whether it was about soccer or school work or career advice. He is great coach and person!"

"Sharif Saber ruined my college experience and I don’t take that lightly. It appears that after leaving mid year from his last school, he has also mysteriously “left” mid year from his next program. Sharif used intense bullying tactics and total disregard for players he did not find valuable. Not only were value opinions deemed early on for individuals worth in the program, from there on out, experiences were vastly different. A select group of starters probably truly DID have a great experience. However, behind closed doors in meeting and even in practices, the verbal torment was inexcusable for a young girl on her own for the first time. Many teammates from both schools recount the same. Sharif used manipulative tactics and bullying to pit players against one on other on AND off the field, and never held up to his word, nor cared. Sharif only cared/cares about Sharif, and getting another accolade to his name and he was extremely clear on this. Sharif is a master at singling out individuals, beyond normal chastise to encourage improvement, and regularly attacking and beating them down, until little to no self worth is left at all. Multiple teammates report extensive false promises, and a constant rollercoaster of emotions being let down continuously. Sharif understands the game, and I’m glad to see others admit that. Unfortunately, this is able to cover up a lot of what goes on behinds the scenes. Sharif used personal details against you, and would prey on your insecurity to push the envelope further, even encouraging players to enter the transfer portal. This is all my experience based opinion, however I have countless ex-teammates who can and do substantiate this."

"Although this coach is no longer with the program, I still feel it is important to share our experience for the sake of future players and families navigating the college recruiting process. The environment during my daughter’s time there was emotionally unhealthy and, at times, toxic. Players were often spoken to in demeaning ways, including being called ‘stupid,’ and many felt constantly torn down rather than supported or developed. There also seemed to be an atmosphere that created division among teammates instead of trust and unity. What was most concerning was that players who confided personal or family struggles sometimes felt those vulnerabilities were later used against them. For young women away from home, that can be incredibly damaging. College athletics should absolutely challenge athletes and hold them accountable, but there is a major difference between strong coaching and emotional mistreatment. I share this not out of bitterness, but because I think parents and young women deserve to ask deeper questions about culture, communication, and emotional well-being when choosing a program."

"Best coach I’ve ever had. Worked with me to make me a better player and person and cared about my future. He definitely got more out of the team than anyone thought he would. Just a great individual!"

"Excellent coach who takes a personal interest in his players. Sharif works to get the best out of them and build a successful team culture. Like any coach, some players don't get the playing time they want under him or might have punished for breaking team rules, but one of Shairf's big things is about accountability to the team. That's part of the great thing he builds within his groups as no one is above the team. That's why his teams always have great dynamics within the group and why he has consistently been able to get the best out of his players. He pushes his players to be better technically and tactically and to push themselves to achieve. Bottomline: Great coach, great person and he wins. That's a hard combination to find. "

"Sure, I’ll play… After years of witnessing this man’s conduct towards myself as well as his athletes and colleagues alike, I am grateful to see so many voices come forward and share their similar experiences. Let’s get the obvious out of the way. Yes, he’s an intelligent coach who knows how to win. And yes, I’m certain there are individual athletes, parents and colleagues for whom he has genuine care and have been spared his poor treatment. Those experiences, however, don’t negate what others, including myself, have witnessed. The language used in this thread is strong, but the number of people describing similar treatment is difficult to ignore. Whether it’s five percent of us or 50 percent, the consistency in these accounts suggests these are not isolated incidents or temporary lapses in judgment, but part of a broader pattern of behavior, particularly concerning for someone in a trusted position of authority and influence over vulnerable young athletes. "

"Sharif was able to balance pushing everyone to get better with creating a great team environment. His trainings were incredible and focused on making both the team and individuals better. The best interests of the team are always at heart and he is not afraid to provide opportunity. He is far and honest with his feedback and truly invested in his players at Upstate. Demanding? Yes. Mean? No. Sharif created a fun, winning environment that is tough to replicate on the college level. He was fully dedicated to overall well being of his players on and off the field. "

"As someone who has known this man for a long time. He is an absolute monster. I am disappointed to see some athletes and parents dismissing his abusive behavior towards the team. Sharif absoultley is the smarted coach I have ever had, he knows tactics like no other. Its unfortunate to see someone abuse their power. He knew what he was doing, he lies and lies and lies. You can not believe anything he says to you and he puts people in horrific situations just to see how they react. He is a dangerous person. There is no denying he was trying to teach us lessons. But callings us "fucking idiots" was not a way to do that. Dividing us politically was not a way to do that. Purposley giving his players anxiety is not a way to do that. Kicking people out of practice, and suspending people for no reason was not a way to do that. Digging for information about players lives to later use it against them was not a way to do that. He is a pathalogical liar and has hurt so many people. These young girls were afraid to say anything for years. So to the parent and the few athletes who continue to stick up for a man who did this to himself is beyond me and its sick behavior. Theres two sides to every story and hate to break to you but saying people were sad over playing time is a complete lie considering we had captains and and 9/11 starters afraid of him. "

"Normally I would not post, but after reading these accusations I am beyond frustrated and feel compelled to speak up. Coach Saber never used racial slurs, and it is disturbing to see that claim spread so casually. The situation being twisted was a team discussion last fall where he shared his own his and his family’s experience of being racially profiled and called horrific slurs along with death threats after 9/11, using that pain to teach how harmful it is to label and dehumanize others, which makes the hypocrisy here unbelievable because the very people accusing him are doing exactly what he was warning against by taking his words out of context and trying to destroy his reputation. This is a Muslim man with a Black wife and Black son being falsely painted as racist, and even more concerning, some of the same players making these claims were previously making ignorant comments themselves, including questioning whether he was “too white” to be Muslim. This feels like a targeted effort by a small group of disgruntled individuals, some who faced consequences for breaking team rules and others upset about lost playing time, and now these accusations conveniently appear. Coach Saber demanded accountability and discipline, which may not have been easy for everyone, but that does not make him abusive, it makes him a coach who cared about developing strong young women, something reflected in one of the most diverse rosters in the Big South. On a personal level, he supported my daughter through very difficult family circumstances, checking in on us, supporting us financially with increased scholarship, and going far beyond his role, and I know of situations where he stayed at the hospital with a player and made sure she got help, which speaks volumes about his character. It is upsetting to watch someone who tried to teach empathy through lived experience be torn down by the exact kind of labeling he stood against, and the damage being done by these claims is real. Upstate did not just lose a coach, they lost a leader, a mentor, and a genuinely good man."

"Manipulative coach used players trauma against them. Got suspended for saying a racial slur (cherry on top) full investigation went on because he was full on abusive. Team culture was awful he made the girls turn against each other and would say “we have no where else to go” and that he was a dictator. "

"I had the opportunity to play under Sharif, and he is one of the most competitive and intentional coaches I’ve ever had. He held everyone to a very high standard, and everything he did had purpose behind it. He knew how to put pressure on players in a way that pushed us to reach our full potential. He is a hard coach, but he’s hard because he wants to win, and under him, we did win. If you want to compete at a high level and be pushed, he is the kind of coach who will get you there. His attention to detail in our style of play and tactics was unmatched, and he played a huge role in building the success our team achieved. He cared about us as people, not just as athletes, and always emphasized growth off the field just as much as on it. He also showed a lot of self-awareness and accountability. He knew when he was wrong and always put the team above himself. Overall, he pushed us to be better in every aspect of our lives and helped shape both the player and the person. Even though we had our differences at times, I never doubted the belief he had in me as a player and a person. I’m grateful for the impact he had on me."

"Sharif is knowledgeable and can relate to players in a way that most coaches do not. He is direct, honest, and creative. While he knows how to win and has won everywhere he has been, he fosters a team culture built on collaboration. He understands players and how to motivate them. Can he be tough? Yes, but he provides the kind of feedback and guidance needed for players to improve and for teams to be the absolute best that they can be. When it looks like things won't work out, he just find a way to bring it all together. "

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"Wrongfully accused of things that didn’t happen. Great coach and the best coach I’ve ever had. Genuinely cares about ALL players, playing or not and wants what is best for you. Has taken every program he’s been in, turned it around completely and been successful. Something I loved about him was how honest he was and I have so much respect for him as a person and coach. Couldn’t have given me a better experience. "

"Recommend Coach.cares about student athlete and person. Put my emotions first and was always honest with where I stood within the program. Created me to be the best player I could be. "