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I don’t think there are words to describe all of the horrible things Tisdale did in her two years I spent at EMU. Please do not be fooled by the facade she puts on during the recruiting process, she is a truly horrible person. To list a few things, Tisdale violated NCAA hour limits, forced us to do military training, had unrealistic run tests, enforced a pregame curfew, and constantly belittled teammates during film and meetings. She encouraged people to talk trash others in 1 on 1 meetings and created a tattle tale culture within the team, breaking trust between teammates. She also wanted you to directly rank yourself compared to teammates, which creates an absolutely horrible atmosphere. She is very power hungry and loves putting people down to instill fear and make herself feel superior. I found myself in a constant state of anxiety throughout my two years, making me dread going to any lacrosse event. During breaks I spent at home, I would be absolutely miserable even thinking about having to go back to school. On the field, she had obvious favorites that she made sure everyone knew, creating a strict favorite/non favorite divide. Days following games, “high mileage” players would talk and roll out and watch everyone else did a full conditioning, further adding to this divide. When you were a favorite, you were brainwashed to thinking she was a good coach/person, almost feeling like things were getting better. Suddenly, she would drop you and go back to the constant verbal slander. She told me I was going to start and get good playtime for the season and then proceeded to play me a total of 10 minutes in the first two preseason games without explanation, even when I directly asked for clarity. She still purposely found your weaknesses and dug into them, making you feel like you have no worth. Meetings I scheduled to try to find what I needed to improve turned into her picking apart every negative thing about me and repeatedly saying that I will never be as good as my teammates. She constantly told me that I did not deserve to be a division one athlete and would make fun of my weaknesses. She once screamed in my face on the sideline after a mistake I made and said that I was so f-ing awful at catching, throwing, and cutting that if the other team scored it would be all of my f-ing fault (We were up by 10 goals at this point). One of Tisdale's worst qualities are her CONSTANT lies. She once told us that people with the best stats after a week of practice would play in the next game. When the time came around, she disregarded this statement and resorted to only playing her typical lineup, with people who preformed well in practice not even touching the field. When asked about it, she gaslight you into thinking that she never said that and blamed you for not being good enough. At the end of my second year, I knew I had no other option for my mental health but to leave. She claims that if you decide transfer, she will always help you and "be in your corner". In reality, she talks negatively about you to any coach that reaches out to her in order to decrease your chances actually getting somewhere else. She specifically told me she would assist me in my transfer process, but immediately said she did not want to help when I asked her one week later. I do not regret spending two years at EMU because of the wonderful people I met, but I still am recovering from Tisdale to this day. I constantly find her voice still in my head during practice and have had to relearn to love myself as a lacrosse player. I never realized how truly awful she was as a person/coach until I shared my experiences with others and they did not believe me. All I have to say is I pray for anyone who plays under Tisdale in the future and I advise you to get a therapist. Trust me, you’ll need it.