"Meg is not an X&O coach. Players do what ever they wanton the field and off the field . Decker doesn’t think she should be involved with players lives."

"Coach Decker speaks at you, not to you or with you. She doesn’t hear you. She always acts like she is teaching you something in her condescending way as if she is so old and wise. She uses the same methods to tell you that you are incompetent. She Just shakes her head and says you know you won’t play for me again. She puts you in tears and then puts you in to play when it suits her. Real head games. She pulls you into doing a ton of extra work for leadership and individuals and then lies and says that you didn’t do any of it and ignores your work and abilities. It’s really just constant head games. She does the same to her current and former staff members. It’s so unhealthy. She has the lacrosse community buffaloed. Don’t let that be you."

"Fact is that the Louisville coach was fired in 2017 for abusing her team. Fact is that same coach was coach Deckers sisters coach at JMU. That coach required two teammates to sign a contract that prohibited both from communicating with each other. Coach decker didn’t do that. She just cut two players after they became close. She told one of them that she would end the friendship if it got to be too much, whatever that is, and she cut one last spring and then the other this fall. Decker likes to tell players they aren’t committed and not D1 quality after players receive D1 accolades, just like the Louisville coach. Decker has 1/2 a team looking at transferring and she is more worried about planting good reviews here than fixing the problems on the team. She has been presented with three pages of problems that the entire team submitted and It’s all about her image, not about the well being of the team or Xavier. Look at the likes on the posts. Those are important. She has scared most of the kids into silence. It’s time to talk. "

"Here's the deal, if you are in favor with Coach Decker, you'll have fun...like everyone else who has ever been in her short-lived favor! It won't last! She will use you as best as she can for her own benefit and make you feel like you are the beneficiary! Beware! If you don't conform to what she wants and the people she choses for you to associate with, you will be out of favor...immediately and forever. She does not communicate the truth well and she loves to create drama. She talks a big game and promises the world but delivers below average coaching and team culture. She has a team that goes to admin often to find relief and retaliates for that. That's not good. Her practices are often good when she has them organized, which isn't often...but when she gets to the game, her coaching fails. She forgets to sub or my favorite...the team is ahead by four and she changes what is going on on the field and they don't score again. Watch her films. It's really a sad thing to see since I think it's within her to do better but for some reason, she just can't. There are a few who have been there a year and had a great experience. More power to those girls and their relationships with her. Good luck! I've known her for 6 years and would never do it again! She presented herself as a different person every year and I'm exhausted trying to figure her out! I was a team mom and had a closer relationship with her than most. That was my downfall. She went from hot to cold in a day! My daughter was cut after winning a Big East award because she fell out of favor for associating with a team mate that the coach didn't like...after following the coach for her entire college life (included 2 schools) . We even had to beg to receive her award after the yearly banquet. It was insane. I'm excited for my daughter now because she now has the opportunity to play for a team where she can be appreciated without the stress of who her coach would be today. I haven't seen my daughter this confident and well in years and I'm mad at myself for not seeing the affects earlier. You do what you want as far as committing to Coach Deckers team"

"Meg Decker is about one thing. And that is Meg Decker. She uses made up stats to trick everyone into thinking she knows what she’s doing and distract them from seeing what is really going on. Her teams are never prepared for games, they do not get better as individuals and they will continue to lose games at an alarming rate because of her incompetence as a “leader.” More than that, because college lacrosse is not just about winning and losing, Meg Decker is terrible and should not be in charge of college student-athletes. She lies and then lies more because she cannot keep track of her lies. She uses team funds for her own travel, unrelated to lacrosse but under the guise she is “recruiting” or “running a clinic.” Gaslighting is such an overused term these days but that is EXACTLY what she does. She thrives on drama, disorganization and disfunction. That is NO environment for a student-athlete. She undermines her staff and players and causes friction amongst the group. The environment she has created is one of mistrust and fear, yet she preaches the opposite. Actions speak louder than words. Don’t fall for her long winded speeches or social media posts. The fact that she still has a job coaching college lacrosse is a JOKE. "

"Coach Decker thinks the game is about her. It's her hair, her strut and her mental health that counts over the mental health of her team. She gives a good speech to get you to join her lair and once you are on her field, she will chip away at your confidence as passive aggressively as possible. She is disorganized, condescending, self important and incompetent. I'm pretty sure her husband is the person giving her ratings of 5 on this site because no one who has ever played for her walks away unscathed. I'm just trying to alert you and save you from complete lacrosse devastation. Xavier is a great school but wait for her to go. Go somewhere where you can get your best D1 lacrosse experience."

"Killed my love for the sport, manipulated me, never wanted to listen to concerns, had a dictator mentality, prided herself in leading with fear, gaslight me, turned away my feelings, accused me of horrible fake scenarios, judged me on a made-up perception of me in her head, egotistical, narcissistic. Worst years of my college experience. "

"This coach is crazy. No one should ever play for her she is the definition of what is wrong in the NCAA in regards the mental health epidemic and is an example of a coach that doesn't care about her players and puts them through emotional, physical, and mental hell. She is manipulative and will gaslight you into thinking you are a terrible person and player. She is an incredible talker and will make you think you are valued and special and you will slowly be torn down by her in indirect ways as soon as you get to campus. Please please do not play for her save yourself it's all lies and she should not be allowed to coach anywhere in the NCAA. I have pages of examples of the terrible things she has done and no player should go through the things she will put you through. She will ruin your lacrosse career and your mental health and you deserve better."

"Pretends she cares but will crush any college athletes plans of having a nice college experience. Sent girls the the hospital for run test, cut girls who spoke up for her teammates, will say you’re a great player then not play you for things you were unaware of, could talk herself out of anything with made up stats and stories, ultimate gaslighter, pretends she knows a lot about lacrosse, got hired at Xavier from Hartford who won 1 game within 4 years, says she cares about mental help, reports students anonymously for mental health reasons for no reasons and pretends she doesn’t know who reported them, assistant coach (who every player adored) was forced out, does not give her players any gear but spends program money going to do home visits, cares more about recruits than players, lies in the recruiting process SIGNIFICANTLY Do not come here."

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