"I am the photographer for the womens lacrosse team at xavier. She made me feel like I was really part of the team. I really appreciate how she made me feel welcomed even tho I am the photographer. "

"Coming from someone who has played under both coaches at Xavier University, the difference is extremely noticeable. Coach Britt provides a safe and healthy environment to grow as an individual and as an athlete. She makes sure that players are taken care of not only physically but also mentally, creating a safe space to talk about mental health. "

"It's nice to see a coach care about players as people instead of just caring about their skills. I think she still needs time to settle into D1 coaching but she's doing a great job so far."

"Christy does a great job holding a standard for not only coaches but players to follow. She is clear and direct with what she wants and helps develop players into successful adults post college. "

"A step in the right direction for Xavier. A long way to go but good strides made in year 1."

"Just what Xavier needed. Cares about her players, wants the best for them as well as the team. I think she has the program trending in the right direction. "

"From the start, Coach Morris seems to be very supportive of her players and truly cares about them as student athletes. She is extremely positive on and off the field. She definitely has Xavier lacrosse moving in a positive direction! "

"I was honestly really nervous when I first came to Xavier because I had heard some negative things about the past coaching staff and wasn’t sure what to expect. From the first time we met, though, she made me feel comfortable and excited to be a Musketeer. It’s been awesome to see how much she cares about building a positive team culture and helping this program grow. I’m so grateful for everything she’s doing."

"Coach Morris inherited a mess. She has done an amazing job in rebuilding trust, instilling a new found confidence in the girls, and finally laying the foundation on building a healthy team culture and program. She genuinely cares about the development of her players beyond the lacrosse field. Looking forward to seeing where she can take this program. "

"It was more about her than the girls and the program. Her lack of professionalism, her inability to connect with the girls, build culture, and overall ineptness, created a situation of pitting teammates against teammates, distrust, and rampant emotional abuse. Where she should have been building a program, she actually set the program back. She lost a great assistant coach and made questionable hires in her husband (who had ZERO coaching experience) and Kirkland Lewis. Both were just as detrimental to the program. Not only did she fail as a coach, but as an ambassador to the sport and the university. "

"Considering the disaster that Brittney inherited, she's doing great. You can tell how much she and her staff care about the athletes. She is also very kind to any support staff, making them feel as if they're a part of the team. There's lots of room to grow, but she's doing great, and I can't wait to see how far she takes the team. "

"Genuinely the worst coach ever. Her husband is terrible and she gaslight the team to get him hired. Do not play for this woman go have a college lacrosse career where you never feel the need to transfer . "

"Promised every player so much and never got that experience. She left a lasting impact on her previous players, and not for the right reasons. Hope she is not allowed to coach an athlete again. Not fit for working with children or adults. "

"Cares so much for each player. Injured, MVP, no playing time, manager, or photographer. Everyone is a part of the team, and she makes that very clear. "

"Coach Britt came on board about a year ago and really had a disaster to clean up. She had to rebuild the team on many levels. Throughout the year her door was always open to start to build relationships, talk lacrosse, talk academics, talk about life in general. Some of the team took advantage of this, some did not, but it was always available to the girls. She has led the team with honesty, care, and knowledge. While the season did not bring as many wins as the program wanted, it brought closer games, more positive interactions, and a team who was more dedicated to the game. There is still a lot of work to be done to build the team skill-wise and culture-wise but Xavier is definitely back on track. "

"Amazing caring coach who is super supportive and creates an environment where athletes want to be successful! "

"After Coach Meg Decker left Xavier women's lacrosse needed someone to come in and change the program. This is exactly what Coach Brittney has done and continues to do. She has brought in a coaching staff that not only cares about you as a player but also as a person. They are making connections with the girls on the team. Coach Brittney has turned this program into one that girls are excited to play for and want to represent well. "

"Not what you want to witness your daughter go through with a coach. "

"Coach Brittany inherited a complete mess at Xavier but she has taken the roll on with kindness, knowledge, commitment, enthusiasm, and determination. She knows that her number one job is to help this team love the game again and so far is doing just that. She is getting to know the team, spending countless hours building the program and doing all she can to help this team move on. She has brought on a caring and knowledgeable staff, including her husband. We will see how everything will shake out during the spring season but so far Brittany is exactly who should be leading this team. "

"She was hired at Annapolis Area Christian School in Maryland as their new Lacrosse Coach and Athletic Director"

"For a long time, I chose not to leave a public comment about Meg Decker. Maybe it was because the most healing thing I could do for myself was simply move on … from the torment, from the toxicity … and focus on becoming the role model I desperately needed during that chapter of my life. When I was first recruited, I saw something in her. I thought she could be someone to look up to. Someone who would teach me how to navigate adulthood with strength, professionalism, and friendship. I followed that belief blindly for far too long. I made excuses for her. I defended her to my family, whom she disrespected in a handful of scenarios. To my friends, who watched me return from practices and games emotionally drained and defeated. And even to my teammates, who experienced the same pain I did. For many years, she placed me on a pedestal, called me her favorite project, gave me leadership roles, had me act as a social bridge between her and the team, told me secrets and fears and personal opinions. I even shared a brief friendship with her once I graduated. For so long I convinced myself she must’ve seen something in me. I thought maybe she had a vision no one else could see, and that was enough for me to justify the harm. What I see now is that none of it was about me, it was about her. Every “investment” she made in me was transactional. I wasn’t being mentored. I was being manipulated. Groomed to play a role in the story she was writing about herself… a redemption arc, a misunderstood genius, a hero forged through struggle. It was never about building others up, only about building her own myth. I wished her well on her journey to Xavier and hoped that she had learned from her mistakes. When I learned that she had not only stayed the same, but gotten worse… I believed karma would eventually catch up. And sure, her being fired is pretty fair karma to me. I thought her being fired from Xavier might finally break the cycle of confusion and tainted sports careers… That she would hang her coaching hat and make an effort to soul search with her God, look in the mirror and identify why she is the subject of so many people’s therapy sessions. But it seems she will be pursuing another coaching gig maybe not at the collegiate level but none the less young women and girls. And I think knowing that she is still finding ways to manipulate her way into these types of professions compels me to say something. So, this is a warning to anyone who enters her circle: proceed with caution. She often spoke of her “hero’s journey,” her desire for an origin story rooted in struggle and trauma. And yes, she has endured her share of hardship. I don’t take that away from her. But I have yet to see her truly rise from the chaos she has partially been responsible for creating. There’s a dangerous pattern in people who are convinced they’re on a righteous path. Many believe that if they just keep going, eventually the world will understand their mission. But what they fail to see (or perhaps don’t care to acknowledge) is the destruction they leave behind. They’ll weaponize sympathy, manipulate perception, and create a broken environment just so that they can play savior. That, in my eyes, is who Meg Decker is! I have plenty of stories that could illustrate her absurd tactics, psychological warfare, and generally petty disposition .. however I think there is more than enough on this page (and I can attest to of many of the stories here) I will just say this.. Please (if you’re a parent) do your research. Coaches aren’t just instructors, they become some of the most powerful influences in a young player’s life, for better or for worse. They shape how young women see themselves, how they handle pressure, how they define strength, and how they learn to trust authority. I cannot stress this enough: Meg Decker should not be ANYWHERE near impressionable young girls. The emotional manipulation, the mind games, the way she chips away at self-worth while disguising it as “tough love” is not development, it is damaging. Your daughter deserves a mentor who will build her up, not one who sees her as a pawn in a personal narrative. Some people love the thrill of twisted individuals - I’ve just grown tired from it. If you’ve done your research and still choose to associate with her, that’s a choice you’ll have to live with. But understand this: in her pursuit of a hero’s journey, she’s left behind a trail of emotional wreckage that too many people are still recovering from. She didn’t just shape athletes, she shattered identities under the guise of mentorship. That’s not coaching. That’s abuse."

"Like many parents and athletes, we were initially impressed by what Meg Decker presented during the recruiting process. She spoke with confidence and vision, and we wanted to believe in the potential of a growing program. However, shortly after our daughter began her first year, we started hearing troubling accounts that raised serious concerns. Our daughter described a coaching environment marked by disorganization, minimal communication, and an unusual coaching style that often felt more like psychological manipulation than mentorship. At first, we gave the benefit of the doubt—hoping things would improve with time—but the issues only compounded. Fundamental skills like clearing, catching, and ball control were persistent challenges for the team. Despite the struggles, there was no structured review of game footage—Coach Decker openly stated she didn’t believe in film review. Players who wanted to improve had to take the initiative to watch games on their own through streaming platforms. Several assistant coaches who seemed genuinely invested in the team’s success left, citing an unworkable coaching environment. In her second year, Coach Decker brought on her significant other, who had no prior lacrosse coaching experience. His unclear role and overly casual demeanor blurred professional boundaries, creating further discomfort. Eventually, he was barred from being near the team—though the reasons were never made public, it was clearly not a positive development. By the end of the 2024 season, nearly half the team had transferred or entered the portal—one of the highest turnover rates in Division I women’s lacrosse. While the university appeared to take notice, Coach Decker remained in place. During the 2025 season, her disengagement became even more apparent. She missed two games entirely, with no explanation—an unacceptable level of professionalism at the D1 level. The university has since parted ways with Coach Decker. In our view, this was a necessary step. While she may have been a capable player, coaching—especially at the collegiate level—requires leadership, communication, and the ability to foster growth and resilience in young athletes. Unfortunately, many players under her leadership felt the opposite: that their love for the game was diminished. With her departure, there is a renewed sense of hope and energy among the team. We’re optimistic that the program can now move forward in a healthier, more supportive direction."

"My name is Kathy Sage..I am the psycho parent referenced in a recent post. My daughter was the Grad Student. That post was written by the coaches boyfriend. I'm not hiding behind anonymity. Let's tell the real story. 1 student, my daughters girlfriend was cut without warning. The referenced video was of her in 8th grade saying something regrettable. The video has been shopped to every coach this girl has contacted and every boss out there. It is taken without context and it was never discussed before cutting her. That is a horrible leader who would take things from a malicious tipster without asking for an explanation from the accused. It was never a part of Decker cutting that teammate. Plus, if she were not D1 worthy, then the coach shouldn't have recruited her...but that is Decker's MO...telling everyone that they are not D1 worthy. SHE, DECKER...is the one who is not D1 worthy! Decker wanted my daughter's attention solely for herself. She had an assistant coach tell my daughter that if the other player got in the way, the coaching staff would take care of it. My daughter had no idea what they meant. Then her girlfriend was cut 3 months later. Then Decker told my daughter casually around that time, that she could see herself in a relationship with a woman, making my daughter extremely uncomfortable. My daughter definitely pulled away a bit and became closer to the team. Decker thanked my daughter for leading the team to complete the running test that fall, that sent one girl to the hospital and that many others failed to complete. My daughter played for that coach with mono that year and the coach was pissed she had to sit out and refused to start her after she was medically cleared. My daughter won a Big East award and had to beg for the award to be given to her and given a lecture by the coaches boyfriend about how she needed to be a better teammate. We went to the banquet that day and the coach and boyfriend avoided me . The next day she was cut from the team. My exit letter to Decker's actions was honest and scathing and she laminated and paraded it around the field. She didn't like me reacting to her so her husband calls me a psycho...I'm good with that. The coaches husband tried to buy drugs from my daughter at one point that semester, in text which was the beginning of his firing from Xavier. Decker told everyone I threatened her and had me removed from 2 games by campus police. Then she had my daughter removed for visiting the campus when she saw her. My daughter owns a house nearby so she has business in Cincy. My daughter bought that house at 23...but Decker said she had no leadership skills. I never threatened Decker...I just knew if I had gone and confronted her face to face she would have had me arrested. She kind of proved my point...attending a game was a lot less volatile...but I guess I read Decker correctly. I was team mother, friend, I compiled food-trains during Matts first bout with cancer...I sent her care packages, trinkets, texts of support that I thought she was doing a great job even though she was not on par. We went out to lunch, and she even told me it was the first time she went to lunch with a parent. We were pals. I used her realtor, I gave her advice about the real estate, and about living in an RV on acreage which she showed interest in doing. Ya know, things that you do when you like each other. She has never been an effective coach...but she had always tried. I was never in a place to be her critic so I just supported her. The only person who would know about the video they mention in the previous post was Decker and Matt because it would be completely unscrupulous to share something like that with parents...especially without speaking with the girl that was cut...about it...EVER. And the only person who could ever think I was psycho..is the person who didn't like hearing the truth in private letter form. When she was fired...it was like a firestorm on my texts to tell me the wicked witch was dead...those parents didn't think I was psycho! I reacted to the way she treated my daughter and me and all of her victims...if she didn't like that, she should have done better! Much better! I'm out!"

"Coach Decker coached me at University of Hartford. Meg Decker is an honest person with good intentions. However, during her time at Hartford, she lacked professionalism and often tried to mix concepts of "business models," psychological theories and political views into our training as division I athletes. This approach did not help us succeed. She cried after we lost a game against Holy Cross, while we were still on the field, while telling us that "our business was failing." This was a complete projection of her shortcomings as a program leader. There were many dramatic moments on this team, perpetuated by coaching staff and especially perpetuated by Decker, that caused our team to suffer. Many players entered practice in "fight or flight" mode, prepared to be forced to reps until they finally succeeded. Obviously this method of training was not effective because we continued to lose. And yes, there was an incident where marijuana was brought on a team trip, a concerned player brought this to coaching staff, and Decker brushed it under the rug and allowed this player, who brought drugs to our in-conference game against UMBC, to remain on the team. This was before the drug was legalized in Connecticut or Maryland. For the people that claim that she was just trying to get her footing... she had years at Hartford to learn how to do this. After experiencing division I level coaching under a new staff, I can say that Decker's coaching style was not productive compared to what the rest of the NCAA has to offer. I can say nothing about what happened at Xavier. However, when there is such intense discourse about whether a coach is a good leader or not, it is safe to say that the coach has some responsibility for the reputation he/she has gained. "

"definitely has some shortcomings as a tactician and head coach but operates with good intent. plenty of small mistakes here and there while trying to gain footing as a new program, most of which could be foregiven or overcome. however, one massive miscalculation led to the relentless spread cancerous gossip and childish attempts to undermine the growth of program. in a foolhearted attempt to improve the team culture, decker cut an entitled player with an inflated sense of self and little to no ability to carry themself as a d1 athlete, on or off the field (one minor example can be found on twitter/x......a self-made video of the player originally posted to snapchat.....casually using the "n-word"......while simultaneously being an over-privileged caucasian girl). reasonable people are probably wondering, "how is the removal of this player a negative!?!?!". Simple. Said removed players' girlfriend was still on the team -- a graduate student, no less, with the kind of emotional regulation you’d expect from someone who thinks “drama” is a leadership style. decker ignorantly understimated the blinding psycopathy this graduate student, and her parents, would display now that her lover was off the team. coach decker had an innate ability to draw maximum effort and energy out of her players......sadly, these efforts would only appear immediately after a player was removed from the roster. if only she could have found a way to draw those efforts out while these girls were still associated with the program. those of us around the program have witnessed how much easier it is to tear something down rather than build it up. regardless, probably best for all parties involved this chapter has come to a close."