"We had cherished unforgettable memories that I personally hold close playing under Coach Kara. Thank you for always believing in me! <33 good always wins. PS Coach is secretly a great singer ask her ;) bus rides for the win. "

"We are here to rally with our girl and sign off New York style. We don’t normally participate in things like this. As a parent of a 4 year player who has experienced Coach Kara’s leadership firsthand, I have to speak up after reading this. It is unsettling how the false statements from nameless folks are circulating. This must be a division 3 issue at a low level institution, because I have never seen such a thing IML! The statements here are UNSUPPORTED! There are no facts, no examples, and no accountability behind the posts — just harsh words from someone hiding behind anonymity. But, then again, they can hide online and say anything they want. I beg my daughter not to get into coaching. Too much evil. Coach Kara has always led with integrity, real love, and witnessed care. She creates a positive yet challenging, and family-oriented environment where players grow as both athletes and people. The idea that she “creates drama” or “lies and manipulates” is completely inconsistent with the respectful, honest way she communicates with players and parents alike we experienced first hand. We have watched her endless work (please give yourself a break.) some problems aren’t meant to be solved, and these bad eggs needs to find a new hobby other than trolling. This is definitely not how things are handled in Long Island, we communicate, better believe that. Proven years of hard work, genuine relationships, and the incredible impact she’s had on so many student-athletes to show for. The real world doesn’t work this way. My only feedback is I wish she worked with the defense more because our defense had a hard time growing when it came to showing up for games. There’s my two cents. Anyways, those who actually know her and have seen her heart and good work know better. "

"I am tired of watching the drama of the capital girls lacrosse program try to tear Coach down, a Coach that has changed lives and has never had negative feedback until taking over this Capital program. Look at the dates these were posted and use your brain everyone. What does that really go to show you. As the previous post stated, toxicity is embedded in this program. Its reputation on their campus is too much to take on and I can’t believe this behavior is tolerated. The stories I have heard and the entitlement, jealously among the girls, and more. Coach I hope you move on and give up on a program that doesn’t deserve you. "

"Ummm WHAT is going ON? Parents, players, alumni, WAKE UP and realize what this poor coach has to endure! Today I learned from another colleague that the former Capital coach before Coach K hacked into their social media and changed the account ownership so the team and administrators could not access it. This is a toxic program with team members who have no respect or dignity. I pray the situation gets better, Capital doesn’t deserve a coach like Coach Concheck-Vincent. that the former coach at Capital, prior to Kara, not only left the program in complete disarray, but spoke with the players the entire spring season and were in their early. What “coach” does this? Remove yourself and move on with your life, lady. Miss Kara.. you should have stayed in coaching anywhere else but here. Our family will be praying for this toxic environment coach is enduring, and her poor assistant coached is an amazing person. God will be watching over you!"

"All this coach does is create drama. Drama within the team, parents, staff and alumni. She fuels for it, she helps create it. She stirs the pot with any individual she has a conversation with. She lies, manipulates and threatens players to tell them what she wants to hear then uses it against them. Record everything. Don’t trust anything she says. "

"The facts are the facts, and the facts are, Coach has a reputation that speaks for itself. Coach Kara has outpouring support across the country, from student-athletes and their families, and those who know her. When she asked for help with a family that has bullied her, we came to support her. The writing is on the wall! This is all to common unfortunately in the coaching space. Experience Coach for yourself, speak with relevant team members or real former players, and inform your own opinion. You will be happy you did."

"Kara is the WORST thing to happen to any program she joins. She has lots of knowledge of lacrosse- but is a failure at explaining it, coaching, leading a team. If Kara has anything nice to you, document it! She is a manipulative liar who cares more about gossiping and emotionally gaslighting players than building a program or having a team with a good, true relationship. Emotional abusive to her players- unless they praise the floor she stands on! If you weren’t her favorite she’d tell you to be an athlete in the most rude, emotionally pulling way! "

"Playing for Coach Kara was honestly one of the best experiences of my life. She created an environment that was full of warmth, energy, and fun, but also built around hard work and respect. Every day at practice felt like we were part of something bigger than just lacrosse. It was about becoming better people, not just better players. I can not think of a coach that cares more than Coach Kara. I was so committed to helping build our program at Saint Francis. The vision Coach Kara had we were all invested in. We put in so much effort together, and some of my best memories are from those early years, the road trips, the laughs, the team-building nights, and the friendships that came out of it. I made my best friends for life during those seasons. And having Coach Kara and Coach Katherine together? Truly the best staff to ever exist. They were the best pair and they pushed us, supported us, and made everything we did feel meaningful. There was a point when I was really struggling personally... I was in a downward spiral with depression that even my own family didn’t notice. Coach Kara did. She saw something was off and took the time to check in, to really talk with me, and to make sure I got the help I needed. That moment changed everything for me. It showed me how much she genuinely cared about who we were beyond the field. Now I’m working in New York City, using the confidence, communication, and leadership skills I built under her guidance. My parents still check in with her and thank her for helping me through one of the hardest years of my life. Anyone who has something negative to say about Coach Kara probably took the easy way out and didn’t want to do the hard work. You get out what you put in. With her, it’s more than a game, it’s about the relationships you build, the lessons you learn, and the person you become along the way. Her words like this always stuck in my head on what my experience meant, but mostly her actions. Thank you Coach"

"Coach Kara Concheck. My daughter and her peers have come together in support of Kara. Kara is an exceptional coach and leader who builds not only skilled athletes but strong young ladies. I have witnessed firsthand the incredible culture she has cultivated—a culture of respect, growth, and community, exemplified during events like Family Friends Weekend mentioned in previous post, and more. She steps into every challenging situation with integrity, handles difficult moments head-on, and consistently prioritizes her players as individuals. It is important to acknowledge that while Kara was on maternity leave, she was unfairly harassed by a parent demanding answers about their daughter’s playing time: a situation that was both sickening and completely inappropriate. This family contributed nothing to our post game tailgates, segregating themselves from the team due to their daughters lack of playing time. They were aggressive and aimed to get others on board with no success. This is the family behind cowardly comments. These actions reflect poorly on the parent, not Kara. Her professionalism and dedication never wavered, even in the face of such entitlement and harassment. I couldn’t believe the harassment she faced when I heard from others. Unacceptable. My daughter was not a starter but knew what she needed to do to grow. Kara’s approach with her athletes models life skills: my daughter worked with Kara one-on-one to broaden her skills, and they engaged in open, honest conversations about playing time and development—conversations handled like mature adults. This kind of mentorship, emphasizing communication, personal growth, and resilience, is what sets Kara apart. Parents should trust her expertise and allow their children to navigate their athletic experiences as responsible young adults. Experience Kara Concheck for yourself, and you will find a passionate, knowledgeable, and heroic leader who puts her players f******s people. Her own words during a freshmen parent meeting, that she loves the girls she coaches, are not just words—they are evident in every interaction. Disregard the petty, vindictive actions of a few, and you will find a coach who creates genuine, meaningful, and lasting impact. "

"Lies during recruitment. Very disingenuous. Manipulative. Completely leads you along and makes promises and when you ask she claims she never said or meant that. Take any recruiting promises with a grain of salt if she doesn't put it in writing or email. Record phone calls."

"I played for Coach Kara 3 years ago. She was great during the recruiting process. She knows and loves the game but didn’t set us up to win. I saw her play favorites and treat people differently that didn’t agree with her. My advice is to stay on her good side so you have a better experience. "

"As someone who has worked closely with Coach Kara Concheck in collegiate coaching for years, that has become a dear friend and mentor of mine, after standing on the side I am enthused to speak up. Here are the facts I have accumulated through my own knowledge and discussion: • Before Kara’s arrival to Capital, the program was in complete disarray. The former head coach, Stacey Florence, ran a program rooted in manipulation, jealousy, and toxicity. There were no incoming recruits, practices lacked organization, and the team could hardly practice because they didn’t have enough players to do so. They had success based on one particular players talent. • Stacey was often an hour late to practices, arrived with no practice plan, had no office presence or availability, and depended heavily on one or two players to carry the team. Everyone else was treated as disposable. • After her departure, Stacey continued to contact current players and speak negatively about Kara’s decisions—a clear breach of boundaries and a sad attempt to hold onto power she no longer had. This was what the program has been built on previously. • Kara stepped in with composure, structure, and vision. She immediately built the roster, recruiting talented, hardworking student-athletes to rebuild the program from the ground up. • She implemented a strength training program—the team now lifts 2–3 times per week with structure and intention. Before Kara, lifting wasn’t even on the radar. • Under her leadership, the team began watching film, scouting opponents, and strategizing for each game. She brought structure, accountability, and a high standard of preparation the program had never seen. • Kara introduced team building activities, leadership development sessions, and feedback meetings where players could openly share their thoughts—because she wanted to learn, especially coming from a different NCAA division. She gave her players unique opportunities most coaches (I do not do this, that is for certain. Players do not deserve this type of power.) • She hired a Capital alum and former player as her assistant coach, a move that shows her commitment to honoring the program’s past and investing in its future. I stand proudly beside Coach Kara Concheck as previously stated. She has revived this program through leadership, compassion, and hard work. The irrelevant noise coming from the stands of this family who thinks they can get others on board doesn’t change the truth—she’s exactly the kind of coach this program needed, and exactly the kind of leader young women deserve. Coaches— encouraging you to support your fellow colleagues. "

"As an alumni of Capital University, I am extremely saddened to hear about the downfall of the program that shaped my life. Talking to the current players, the disrespect, lack of preparation, team chemistry, poor communication, mental games that went on this past season is painful to hear. My favorite memories are with my college teammates, coaches and sorority sisters, everyone should have that experience. If the statements I heard are true, I would NEVER play for Coach Kara. Let see how many positive reviews are posted next to cover up this one.. "

"Honestly, Coach Concheck is one of the most real coaches I’ve ever played for. Yeah, she pushed us. But she cared, and you always knew where you stood based on your effort. Practices were competitive but fun, and we actually got better every week because they were so intentional. I've read recent commentary and I'm going to stand up for what I believe as she taught me. Kara helped me grow a ton as a player, but even more as a person. She had our backs, and she never played favorites, which I think is why some people didn’t like being held accountable. Straightforward but also caring, and understanding. I still reach out to her for advice and she always responds. Not many coaches do that once you’re done playing. She really shows up, even years later. Anyone can say what they want, but anyone who actually played for her and wanted to grow will tell you the same thing: she’s the real deal. "

"I’ve had the chance to witness firsthand what Coach Kara Concheck builds as a parent, and it goes far beyond wins and losses. What she creates is a true sense of family, and that’s something not many coaches can claim. In her 12 or some years coaching, Kara has had support of her teams all across the country. Kara has a unique ability to bring people together. She doesn’t just coach players, she welcomes their families, celebrates their milestones, and fosters a culture that’s about connection just as much as competition. One weekend that really stands out was the Family, Friends & Alumni Weekend she organized at Winthrop. Over 125 people showed up to campus to reconnect, celebrate, and be a part of something bigger. She went out of her way to coordinate an amazing family-led practice, alumni events, tailgate, and more. It was one of the most thoughtful, community-driven weekends we’ve ever been part of, and people are still talking about it a year later. The culture she builds is inclusive, empowering, and deeply rooted in respect, and for my daughter, it made all the difference. We saw her grow not just as an athlete, but as a young adult who felt seen, valued, and challenged. It’s frustrating to see negative commentary coming from a place of personal frustration. That’s not the coach we know. Our families will continue to come together to speak her praises and silence an anonymous, hateful, baseless, even vague Capital player and her family. Coach Concheck has the full support of our family, and I know we’re not alone in that. She’s left a lasting impact on our daughter — and on all of us. We will stand by Coach. "

"As the parent of a former player who had the privilege of competing under Coach Kara Concheck, I felt compelled to speak up. My daughter played for Coach Concheck during one of the program’s most unforgettable seasons. With a roster of just 16 players, she led the team to an incredible win over San Diego State and helped them reach the first MPSF Championship appearance in school history. That wasn’t luck. It was the result of a coach who prepared with intention, created a game plan, and built a team culture rooted in belief, discipline, and joy. My daughter looked forward to practice every day, it was thoughtful, well-structured, and fun, a rare balance that Coach Concheck struck effortlessly. When the program was later cut, Coach Concheck didn’t disappear or shift blame. She worked tirelessly behind the scenes to help her players find new homes. She advocated for them, reached out to coaches, and stayed fully present through a tough transition. She put her players’ futures above all else: that’s who she is. Even now, years later, Coach Concheck continues to play a strong role in my daughter’s life. She’s written letters of recommendation, connected her with career opportunities, and helped her secure jobs after graduation. That level of mentorship is rare, and it speaks volumes about her character and commitment. One parent and player, disappointed by outcomes they didn’t get, should not be allowed to rewrite the story of a coach who has changed so many lives for the better. The truth is, Coach Concheck has built programs with integrity, led with purpose, and invested in the long-term success of her athletes. I’m proud my daughter played for her, and I’m even more grateful that their connection didn’t end with graduation, because real leaders show up long after the final whistle blows. "

"If you are considering committing to a program led by Kara Concheck, save yourself some time and keep looking. Kara is ego driven and she has low game IQ,…a horrible combination. She ruins lacrosse for players who love the game by undermining team culture and manipulating relationships. We watched her divide and isolate players who spoke up, even team captains. "

" I can say with complete confidence that Coach Concheck is one of the most inspiring and impactful figures in my athletic and professional life. As a college coach, she not only brought out the best in me as a player, but also instilled values of discipline, resilience, and teamwork that have stayed with me ever since. Their ability to connect with athletes, motivate them, and foster both personal and athletic growth is truly remarkable. Coach Concheck leads with integrity, passion, and a genuine love for the sport and the people in it. I’m incredibly grateful to have learned from them as a player and now to grow with them as a coaching colleague. It’s rare to find a mentor who evolves into a teammate and friend—and that’s exactly who Coach Concheck has become to me."

"PASSION ON REPEAT! Kara brought unmatched passion to the field every single day. That is the first word I think of when I think of her! Whether it was practice, a film session, or game day, her energy is contagious and she makes it look easy. My favorite part of game day were her thoughtful pep talks and the story telling she used to inspire us. She motivated us not just to be better players, but better people. She’s tough in all the right ways you want in a coach and you either are on board or you aren't. Kara sets high standards and holds us accountable, but she does it with heart and purpose. What makes Kara stand out is how supportive she is. She listens. She checks in. She knows when to push and when to encourage. I grew tremendously under her leadership, not just in my lacrosse skills, but in confidence, work ethic, and character. I have loved watching her become a mom while being a great coach. She proves you can be strong and compassionate, demanding and supportive, all at the same time. Coach Kara doesn’t just coach a team, she builds a culture. And being part of that culture was one of the most impactful experiences of my life I will hold close to my heart. "

"My playing experience gave me new perspective and prepared me for life while playing under Coach Concheck. I know I would not have had as successful of a post grad professional career had I not had the experience I did. I grew as a person and player because I needed the tough love, discipline, and support through my growth process. She is tough but compassionate, kind and committed. I left my complaining behind and got to work while becoming a better team mate. Coach gave me new passion for the game that I thought I had lost along the way. I finally found the joy and excitement coming to practice each day and preparing for games. Something I appreciated so much, was her empathy and passion. I could always count on her to listen to me and. I watched Coach care for teammates that were bitter about playing time, who made excludes and did not care to improve but only complain. She STILL loved and cared for them consistently showed up. Her last season with me she was on maternity leave and we had our assistant coach as the interim, so I didn't get to end the way we wanted to but I am forever grateful. The true definition of a leader on and off the field, and I hope to be the same. I am a better person because of Coach and I know she will always support me and is a phone call away"

"Feedback Regarding Coach Kara Concheck My experience under Coach Kara Concheck was, unfortunately, one of the most difficult and disheartening periods of my athletic career. I entered a successful and promising college lacrosse program, but by my senior season, we had only secured two wins. Beyond the record, what was most damaging was the team environment under her leadership. Several teammates—close friends—ultimately transferred due to what many of us experienced as emotionally harmful coaching practices. It became clear that unless you actively sought her favor or had strong parental involvement, your development and well-being were not a priority. Players who were injured or going through personal challenges were often met with comparison rather than compassion. Rather than offering support, she would diminish our experiences by redirecting attention to her own stories, often implying we lacked drive or resilience. A particularly troubling incident involved four teammates needing surgery within the same month. Coach Concheck chose to visit only the three athletes she favored, entirely ignoring the fourth—offering no acknowledgment until the night before the surgery after an unrelated encounter with the surgeon at a basketball game. She visited all players post-op except our one friend. This selective attention deeply affected team morale and clearly demonstrated the inconsistency in how players were valued. Additionally, she would frequently reference her own injury as a way to downplay others' pain—Women’s soccer players also chimed in to mention Kara was claiming she tore her ACL and continued to play through it. This account contradicted what we saw and heard at the time, making it difficult to trust the authenticity of her leadership. For prospective athletes: if you value strong team culture, emotional support, and a coach who respects the individual needs of each player, I would strongly urge caution. My time under Coach Concheck made me question my love for the sport and my self-worth as an athlete—something no player should have to endure."

"The experience her players have went through this season is heartbreaking. Coach does not know the college rules: example, tried to play an athlete who received a red card the game before. She prepared the team for a conference game with “said” player only to be told during the starting line up, that player could not play. She did not prepare the team properly to win an important conference game. She did not prepare the team for playoffs with short practices and little game plan going into competitions. As a college coach you have the responsibility of deadlines. Not submitting team or players awards for All-Region/All-Americans on time, resulting in them not have the recognition they clearly deserve. I agree with the post prior, she must interview well. "

"As a parent, I watched Coach Concheck take over my daughters D1 team, a team that was a perennial cellar dweller, and lead them to the most wins in program history her senior year. Was she demanding at times, yes. Did she expect the best they had out of them, yes. Were their difficult discussions at times, yes. But all of this took place in a culture where the players knew she cared about them and their successes not just as athletes but as human beings. Kara brought a culture of mutual respect, caring and fun to a team that had none of that. I will never forget how she spoke about the seniors on senior day, off the cuff, and how she nailed exactly who every one of those young ladies were as athletes and people. As a parent, you hope that your child's coach is fair and that they have the mindset to help develop their athletes into great people who can go out into the world with confidence and hope. I'm a big believer in leaving a place or a person better than what it was when you got there and I can confidently say that Kara has done that wherever she has been."

"As a former player, I have the upmost respect and admiration for Kara Concheck. She radiates positivity and intensity with the challenge to motivate her players on and off the field to be their best. Her love of the game and the people she coaches is eminent each and every day. I would not be the successful professional and the great player I was without her guidance and player-driven leadership. She is intelligent, personable and all around a great human who approaches her team understanding their needs and how she can facilitate top talent from them. I would highly encourage anyone who has the opportunity to play for Kara to do so; you will never regret the fun and experiences she can provide to enhance your short time as a college athlete!"

"What a disappointment. Coach does not know what it takes to run a competitive program. She has belittled my daughter and made her hate the game of lacrosse. She did not prepare this team for a playoff run or to be successful in postseason. 40 minute practice the day before a tournament game? I would not recommend coach if you want to win a championship or like winning in general. "