"Disrespectful, name calling, bully. Stopped filming practices because she knew what she was doing and made sure it wasn’t filmed."

"Verbally and mentally abusive towards players. Condescending, mean and dishonest.Forced to resign as players and parents brought charges against her. Bad coach and a despicable person. "

"If you are not international do not even look at this program "

"I hope that Lilli has matured as a person and coach since my time swimming a few years ago, however, my experience with her was terrible and I cannot recommend that anyone goes here to swim in good conscience. Even if it is free. Lilli played extreme favorites and created a culture where bullying was acceptable. She treated people like me who were struggling with disabilities, mental illnesses, severe medical issues, or injuries as lesser. During my time swimming at URI, multiple people quit the team and I considered it many times. My own medical issues were never understood or accommodated and the bullying that I experienced from teammates was never addressed even after it was brought to the attention of the coaches. I experienced bullying along with both verbal and psychological abuse, which took years to recover from. As a swim coach, Lilli was not successful and never took feedback. She did not know how to taper or cater to different athletes. There was no plan for the season's training and it showed. To her credit, she is very knowledgeable about breaststroke and very capable at coaching breaststrokers. But, being able to coach one stroke is not enough to build a team. Our team was not competitive in the A-10 conference and many athletes got worse while only a few improved. While we had a decent record winning meets, we did not go against the same caliber of teams as those in the A-10 so it should not be used as a marker for success. We were last or second to last 3 out of 4 years at conferences, and this trend continues. I hope that Lilli no longer treats her athletes like this, has learned to successfully coach all athletes to help them improve, and has learned to create a better team culture. However, I wish I could go back in time and choose to swim anywhere else. I hope no one ever has to experience what I went through. She was a great swimmer, but that does not make her a great coach or person. "

"I hope that Lilli has matured as a person and coach since my time swimming a few years ago, however, my experience with her was terrible and I cannot recommend that anyone goes here to swim in good conscience. Even if it is free. Lilli played extreme favorites and created a culture where bullying was acceptable. She treated people like me who were struggling with disabilities, mental illnesses, severe medical issues, or injuries as lesser. During my time swimming at URI, multiple people quit the team and I considered it many times. My own medical issues were never understood or accommodated and the bullying that I experienced from teammates was never addressed even after it was brought to the attention of the coaches. I experienced bullying along with both verbal and psychological abuse, which took years to recover from. As a swim coach, Lilli was not successful and never took feedback. She did not know how to taper or cater to different athletes. There was no plan for the season's training and it showed. To her credit, she is very knowledgeable about breaststroke and very capable at coaching breaststrokers. But, being able to coach one stroke is not enough to build a team. Our team was not competitive in the A-10 conference and many athletes got worse while only a few improved. While we had a decent record winning meets, we did not go against the same caliber of teams as those in the A-10 so it should not be used as a marker for success. We were last or second to last 3 out of 4 years at conferences, and this trend continues. I hope that Lilli no longer treats her athletes like this, has learned to successfully coach all athletes to help them improve, and has learned to create a better team culture. However, I wish I could go back in time and choose to swim anywhere else. I hope no one ever has to experience what I went through. She was a great swimmer, but that does not make her a great coach or person. "

"Totally agree with the last post. The players who support her abusive style should enter the portal and take their chances."

"When almost 20 current and former players come forward with a complaint, it is serious. And, don't be fooled, this happened again at URI and she "resigned" due to the risk to the university. "

"Whitney Goldstein should not coach another inning of softball, ever. Abusive coach who was let go of both of her head coaching positions. She has no idea how to cultivate a team culture. She pits players against players by having players rate players. She has her favorites and if you stand up, you will get beat down. Horrible coach. "

"The woman is very knowledgeable for the game of softball and what it should take to win. However, in every other aspect she falls incredibly short. The only preparation that is involved in program's run like this is learning how to deal with a bad boss. There are obvious mind games and blatant favoritism played on a daily basis. Unfortunately, there is no such thing as professional softball, and with that being said this is the end of the line. While winning is important, the biggest thing at this level is guiding and giving the girls tools and lessons to succeed past this sport. Under this regime, there is no growing as a person, a good work ethic is not refined, and doing the right thing is not important. In such a pivotal time to grow into adulthood, there is little support and guidance. "

"Whit is not the person she appears to be before you play for her! She is everything the other reviews have said. Look up the lawsuit from WPI and then imagine the AD at URI hiring her anyway. Now we are in the same boat. Awaiting the results of an abusive coaching investigation that was brought to the university by close to 20 current and former players. There is actually a text from Whit verifying wanting to punch a player between the eyes. The body shaming, constant demeaning, the blame on players for every loss without ever looking in a mirror at her own coaching is exhausting. She can't figure out why girls that hit bombs in travel can't hit on her team...but when you get to school she tells you to forget your own swing you've worked on for 10 years and "chop wood". Yup, like kids learn when they are 7 if they pop up! That is how you must hit, so no one hits real well. She also coaches your swing between EVERY pitch during a game from 3rd base. The ESPN announcers have actually made fun of her for it, saying things like "Wow, Coach Goldstein is coaching these girls every pitch! I have never seen a D1 coach do such a thing" and "Maybe she should leave this for practice instead of games". She does NOT coach on any type of pitch selection, and there is ZERO preparation for the teams that are being facing. She also calls pitches even though she has never pitched. She is terrible at this and it often results in the opposition getting hits on 2 strikes bc she just keeps throwing the same pitch. If you are considering playing for her talk to ppl, Google search and be ready for going from loving the game to hating it. Her coaching style is like the military where she breaks you down and you have to build yourself back up. Do not expect much in the way of compliments or even a "good job". Good luck with players being favored and those that are favored are so bc they run to her and tell her everything. Those are the girls that get playing time and are not publicly shamed all the time. Don't believe me? Look at the 1st baseman's stats for the 2024 season. Her batting average is a joke but she played almost every game and every inning. Others that can play 1st weren't even given a chance no matter how terrible she did bc she is one of caoch's besties. Worst experience ever!!!!!"

"Just no... I would never send another kid to play under this women, staff, family, AD, College. Absolutely horrible mental health and pits players against each other. Terrible environment, does not give proper food allowance money, forces players yo sleep with each other, body shames, NCAA Violations galore! Militant baseball mentality. Limited knowledge and gross abuse. "

"worst experience of my life… "

"It has been an extremely unfortunate experience for our player and we have watched as she has deteriorated emotionally, physically and in softball over the past years that Whitney has coached. Whitney came to URI already having a past history of abuse, cover up, hazing. When she was coaching for WPI, the school, Whitney, her husband, her mother and her father were all named in a suit for a severe hazing accident that resulted in a career ending injury as well as a very large out of court settlement. It's reported that the settlement was above 1 million dollars. UI was aware of this and hired her anyhow. For our part, there's really no describing the type of agetation that she creates on her team, between teammates, encouraging and giving favor to people who Tell on there teammates, withholding a food as punishment, body shaming and much more. This is by far the most hostile environment our athlete has ever been in. The assistant coaches join in on the belittling, berating, public humiliation, body shaming, intimidation... Players are not fed properly at all and our daughter has been sick multiple times due to this. If you have any type of disease or food allergy or anything like that you are 100% on your own and in most cases need to provide your own food while traveling as well as anytime there is a team event. Whitney threatened to punch a player in the face, saying, I am so angry, I could punch you in the face right now. She's regularly known for throwing tantrums and kicking multiple athletes out of practice with no explanation at all. It's a very sad situation with this coaching staff and definitely criminally abusive on so many levels. Please do your homework before sending your athlete to play under this coach. At the end of this season 75% of her players were seeking mental health counseling. Buyer beware, don't be fooled by her. Also, facilities are terrible, especially dorms. There are multitudes of pictures out there showing black water coming out of the faucets, trash everywhere in your rooms when you move in, there are no special dorms at all or accommodations for softball players, the shower water is known to turn blonde hair green. Illness is rampant for anybody that lives in a dorm. Just terrible. We do not recommend playing for any of the coaches on the staff. Players have been left for days with concussions, vomiting, forced back to play while they're still injured. All of this is supported by mental health department as well as the medical facility doctors including the chief of medicine for University of Rhode Island. Reports have been made for 3 years now and have not been responded to you by the AD's office. "

"The experience that was had by multiple players on the 2021-24 teams over several years, was nothing short of traumatic. Uncaring, untrustworthy, constantly pitting players against each other, traumatizing comments, temper tantrums, curses at players, belittles, degrades, body shames, encourages tattling on your teammates in order to get brownie points and favoritism, sets team captains up to carry out her abusive agenda, threatened to slug a player between their nose and their forehead, calls players disgusting and that she can't stand them, makes players rank other teammates on how bought in they are to her brand and program, public humiliation and so many other things. Whitney does not provide proper meals during travel and games, players often only getting two meals a day and sometimes one of those meals only consists of a smoothie. Players are given between $5 and $15 for 1-2 meals at the airport while traveling. We do not suggest anyone play for her. She was named in a lawsuit for a severe hazing incident at WPI that she orchestrated and that her parents and husband participated in AND ALSO PARTICIPATED IN THE COVER-UP OF THAT HAZING INCIDENT. Incident ended in the player being severely injured. The school (WPI) and her parents were sued, and Whitney and her husband Matt were named in the suits as well WPI WAS SUED. It was settled out of court for a very large sum of money. URI hired her knowing that she participated in the hazing incident and cover up, with this information and knowledge and nothing has changed about what she's doing. She did not learn anything from that experience. Absolutely abusive, old school style coaching with very little coaching actually going on. She believes in breaking kids down like they're in the military to build them up to be loyal only to her and fear her versus respect her. Lots of drama, very sporadic broken coaching, pitching coach tells the players to look up spins and different pitches and spins on Google or YouTube because she does not know how to teach them. Horrible experience for many athletes unfortunately. These athletes have now come together and come forward however and they are in the process of reporting the staff starting with Whitney. The complaint process began in March of 2024 which includes doctors, psychologist and well over 10 athletes. Meetings to hear specific incidences and reports begin on May 6, 2024. Anyone looking to play at University of Rhode Island should do your homework before you send your child there. Also, facilities and dorms are absolutely terrible. Many dorms do not even have clean water. The bathrooms are cesspools. Food is decent, professors are excellent overall. Compliance has been very helpful The AD's office has swept these complaints under the carpet for 3 years now. That will not be happening this year. These complaints are moving forward in the school will either respond to them or families intend on taking this to legal platform. "

"Americans need not apply. Even the Europeans detest playing for him. Overall bad guy, dishonest, awful coach. Just look at his stats from the last 2 years. Numerous complaints about him to the athletic director. Nothing gets done. Interview the players. Get this guy out. Little to no communication with the players. Assistant coach is nice but has zero say. Maybe it's time to get rid of the athletic director too...."

"Just a disrespectful coach. Does not care about anyone aside from himself. Will belittle other staff members in front of the entire team, including other adults. Would not recommend playing or working around Murph"

"Inexperienced and young. Unable to control emotions and treat everyone fair and equal. Not evolving as a professional coach at all. "

"The most delusional coach I’ve ever had. We only win games because of our teams talent not because of anything he does for us."

"Bad coach overall. Don’t have the enough knowledge about soccer, plays with tactics and barely knows the concept of empathy. Disappointed "

"Coach Murphy shouldn’t be any where near young adults. There was lots of hazing at St Anselms-some of it was in a sexual nature and Murphy not only witnessed hazing but encouraged it. He has left life long scars on many of his players! "

"This coach made me excited to start during recruitment, and unfortunately all promises fell short. This coach was way too touchy with his athletes, and very keen on screaming in girls faces. He has lied to me about comments from another coach. He had asked for feedback from swimmers and would yell in disagreement. Confusing, well past his best."

"Probably the worst coach ever. I think she gets off at belittling players and instead of motivating the players, she pointed out everything wrong. If you want your self esteem to be at an all time low, by all means be apart of her team. "

"If you are considering playing for Megan Jesse please do yourself a favor and find another coach. When I tell you she will mentally and physically enrage you. I’m not kidding."

"Inconsistent Mood swings Misleading Awkward "

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